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This is what our conversation looked like:
1) I described the evening from my perspective. I began without adding my interpretation of it.
2) I then described how I understood what happened by giving two interpretations.
3) I explained how my perspective of the evening made me feel (angry).
4) I asked Jeff for clarification of what had happened from his side of the spectrum.
It took less than three minutes to talk through everything. It was not rushed neither was it just me talking. We had a dialog, and it was actually a very good experience.
Because of the time I had taken to keep my emotions in check, I was able to communicate clearly, and it was easy for him to follow my argument. Forgiven and forgotten!
I am so thankful to have these tools in challenging situations. Maybe you are already an expert at dealing with likewise situations, but in case you, like me, need some help when challenged with emotions, these tools that I have presented are very useful.